It's THE existential question ever since someone decided it should be. But why all the fuss about having sex on a first date? Clearly, it's a hot topic, so here's what we think.
"But wait, it sends the wrong signal!"
What signal exactly? That you listen to your desires? There's nothing wrong with that. Embracing your desires shows that you're not willing to set them aside. If you feel an intense attraction with your Crush from the first date, go ahead. Let the chemistry work its magic and enjoy an (hopefully) orgasmic moment.
"It immediately categorizes the type of relationship you're looking for."
Hold on, this argument has its limits. If sleeping together on the first night dictates the future of your relationship with your Crush, it likely means the foundation wasn't clear between you two. Clearly stating what you want from a relationship is crucial, and it's not the act of sleeping together on the first night that will decide the future. It's all about communication!
So, you've got it. Sleeping together on the first night shouldn't be a taboo. What's important is listening to yourself and discussing it with your Crush. And if anyone bothers you about it, send them our way, okay?
Debriefing After Sex with Your Crush
Some people wonder what you're supposed to do after making love. First, take a deep breath. Then, why not initiate a post-sex debrief with your Crush? We don't do it often enough, and if it can help you both improve, why not?
Make a "Pros" and "Cons" List
Making love with your Crush is an important step. Over time, debriefing the intimate moment you shared can help you understand each other better, learn each other's preferences, and ultimately increase pleasure. As long as you stay kind, don't hesitate to share what you liked or didn't, and guide them to a real fireworks display!
Dare to speak up when things aren't right
When discovering pleasures together with your Crush, it's important to feel comfortable. If you're not ready to take the plunge or want to take more time, it's important to say so. The post-sex debrief can be enjoyable, but don't hesitate to give immediate feedback if you feel the need. In any case, communicate!
You see, after cuddling, it's time for chatting, which can make things even hotter next time. We're counting on you…
